Practical guides
Clear information to help you choose a next step, at your own pace.
One topic at a time
Your first step in dating
Name one situation you would like to change.
Separate what happened from how it felt. Choose one small action you can comfortably try this week.
Try one small step
Write down one action, when you will try it and what you will look back on afterwards.
Related tool (Japanese) Contact usA profile that sounds like you
Start with everyday details rather than impressive claims.
Write about your work, a typical day off and something you value. Use details you would feel comfortable discussing in person.
Try one small step
Write down one action, when you will try it and what you will look back on afterwards.
Related tool (Japanese) Contact usPrepare for a first conversation
A good conversation leaves room for both people.
Choose one everyday topic. Ask an open question, listen to the answer and share something related about yourself.
Try one small step
Write down one action, when you will try it and what you will look back on afterwards.
Related tool (Japanese) Contact usThink through a LINE reply
Decide what you want the other person to understand.
Respond to the message you received. Keep the tone comfortable and avoid adding several unrelated questions at once.
Try one small step
Write down one action, when you will try it and what you will look back on afterwards.
Related tool (Japanese) Contact usPlan a comfortable date
Choose a plan that both people can enjoy.
Check location, travel time, budget and opening hours. Offer a clear suggestion while leaving room for the other person’s preference.
Try one small step
Write down one action, when you will try it and what you will look back on afterwards.
Related tool (Japanese) Contact usReview your appearance
Comfort and everyday care come first.
Check clean clothes, shoes, hair and nails. Choose something suitable for the setting that you can wear comfortably.
Try one small step
Write down one action, when you will try it and what you will look back on afterwards.
Related tool (Japanese) Contact usReflect after meeting
A difficult moment does not define the whole date.
Note one thing that went well, one thing you noticed and one thing you would like to try differently. Avoid assuming the other person’s feelings.
Try one small step
Write down one action, when you will try it and what you will look back on afterwards.
Related tool (Japanese) Contact usPrepare for a marriage meeting
Reduce practical uncertainty before the day.
Confirm the time, meeting place and relevant rules. Prepare a short introduction and a few questions you would genuinely like to ask.
Try one small step
Write down one action, when you will try it and what you will look back on afterwards.
Related tool (Japanese) Contact usFind a comfortable pace
Closeness works best when both people feel comfortable.
Look at the pace of replies and meetings. Express your preference without demanding the same pace, and respect a boundary or a no.
Try one small step
Write down one action, when you will try it and what you will look back on afterwards.
Related tool (Japanese) Contact usMake a considerate invitation
Give a specific option and room to decline.
Suggest an activity and possible time. Make it easy for the other person to choose another plan or say that it does not work.
Try one small step
Write down one action, when you will try it and what you will look back on afterwards.
Related tool (Japanese) Contact usLearn about shared values
Everyday examples can tell you more than a list of conditions.
Talk about how each of you spends time, makes decisions or handles a difficulty. Listen before deciding what the answer means.
Try one small step
Write down one action, when you will try it and what you will look back on afterwards.
Related tool (Japanese) Contact usExpress your feelings in a relationship
Speak before frustration builds up.
Describe a specific situation and how you felt. Say what you would like to discuss, then make room for the other person’s perspective.
Try one small step
Write down one action, when you will try it and what you will look back on afterwards.
Related tool (Japanese) Contact usNo topics match. Try a shorter word.
These guides help you organise your thoughts. They do not guarantee relationship or business outcomes. Linked tools may be in Japanese.